Tribal: Fix
What helps me dissociate from this tribal trap is remembering that everybody makes mistakes. And me not liking some people does not mean they don't have any important skill or viewpoint at all. I'm an individual before I'm a tribe. I don't have to like the person to agree with him, and I like the person doesn't mean I can't disagree with him.
Prideful: Fix
For this one, what I do is training to say "I don't know" in many situations, because that's usually the truth. I'm not an expert in everything. I'm prone to be led to believe in the wrong things. My source of information is not always reliable, because the source is always another human, like me.
And being okay with being pointed at, and being told "I told you so". Let that person tell me that. It's better to look like a fool for five minutes than to be a fool forever.
But I do wanna make sure that I don't tell people "I told you so" or point at them when they admit they're wrong. I had that problem of gloating on people their humble moment. I'll be silent and let them be, because when something you believe to be true turns out to be false in public, it's always hurtful. Why become somebody they'll resent for gloating, when I can be somebody they'll appreciate for backing off?
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What helps me dissociate from this tribal trap is remembering that everybody makes mistakes. And me not liking some people does not mean they don't have any important skill or viewpoint at all. I'm an individual before I'm a tribe. I don't have to like the person to agree with him, and I like the person doesn't mean I can't disagree with him.
Prideful: Fix
For this one, what I do is training to say "I don't know" in many situations, because that's usually the truth. I'm not an expert in everything. I'm prone to be led to believe in the wrong things. My source of information is not always reliable, because the source is always another human, like me.
And being okay with being pointed at, and being told "I told you so". Let that person tell me that. It's better to look like a fool for five minutes than to be a fool forever.
But I do wanna make sure that I don't tell people "I told you so" or point at them when they admit they're wrong. I had that problem of gloating on people their humble moment. I'll be silent and let them be, because when something you believe to be true turns out to be false in public, it's always hurtful. Why become somebody they'll resent for gloating, when I can be somebody they'll appreciate for backing off?
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