Guys, I'll reveal to you a secret that ladies won't ever tell, a secret that could give you enormous confidence.
If you're dealing with a lady you like, remember that she's very sensitive and sometimes insecure about how she looks.
Because of that general trait of women, you should pay attention to how she moves, how she smiles, what happens when she laughs, the shape her face takes when she's looking away, what her forehead does when she's focused.
As you pay attention, you'll find something in particular that makes you feel good. Maybe there's a body mark on her arm that you found attractive, maybe there's a different tone to her laughter that melted you, or maybe her timing of when to joke around and when to be serious really impressed you.
And mention THAT to her. Tell her what you saw, and tell her how it made you feel, what it made you think of her. That's how the right compliment is found.
As you do this thing, however, remember two things:
1. Do not exaggerate,
because she'll feel like you're lying. Don't color things up. Just say what you noticed, and what about that made you feel a way. (If you exaggerate, do it only for comical reasons.)
2. She may put down your compliment or push it away,
and don't be discouraged by that. Ladies (humans in general) have this tendency to resist compliments, because she doesn't wanna fall for kind words and become a fool. What if you're a dickhead who's looking for a quick ride. She has to look out for herself.
When she resists the compliment, saying something like, "No, this is not that attractive honestly," it's often an invitation for you to try harder. Because the harder you try, the more invested you are in her. The more invested you are in her, the more attractive you'll appear to her, and you'll actually become somebody worthy of her love and effort.
Ladies do this very often. They reject, or push away a compliment using many techniques. Maybe it's a sigh, maybe it's a statement like the one above.
That's okay. Just simply say that you meant it and move on. Don't stay there to explain why you meant it and how you meant it. No. You'll prove yourself when you keep paying attention to her, and then giving her those little compliments that are a genuine reflection of how you view her.
So first rule is to be very attentive to her, her gestures, and her body. That alone, many ladies immediately find attractive. I promise you that paying attention to little details is not as easy as it sounds.
Second rule is to point out what you noticed that you genuinely loved. Don't borrow lines from movies and songs. Fuck that. Go with your raw reaction to what you noticed in her, and tell her that. Whatever type of lady she is, I'm sure she doesn't like boring compliment that she knows doesn't match the reality of her being.
If you're scared and can't say the compliment to her—perhaps she intimidates you—then tell her that you have something on your mind you want to tell her, but you're worried what she would think of it.
That will make it easier for you, and it will light a spark of curiosity for her.
Bonus tip: Put your fucking phone away when she's around. Focus.
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