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She suggests saying something like, “This did not go down the way you wanted it to go down and because we love you and we want you to have what you want, we’re going to be disheartened on your behalf.” Just be disappointed alongside them.
The goal is not to fix the situation or fix your child. It’s to be there for a hard moment and reassure them that they’ll get through it. Exams are not the measure of a human—they are the measure of an important but narrow set of academic standards. This result will not ruin their future. It might alter it, but that’s life. The key is that you have their back, and you will help them get through it.
Cullinan recounted the story of a stressed student who had just gotten a 64% on an exam. The student was visibly upset and said he needed to call his mom, who would be really disappointed in him. Cullinan tried a different narrative: he focused on the areas for improvement rather than the result in hand. He told the student: “Good! So, there's only 36% left to win!” His choice of words communicated that all was not lost; there was plenty of room for growth. “It’s all a dress rehearsal,” he says.
✔️The teaching moment
Your kid wanted to study, but just kept finding so many other fun things to do. Video games. Friends. Sports. Social media. They get poor marks and you are chomping at the bit to Say ‘I told you so’ They will probably feel the sting of disappointment. Let them. Hug them or reassure them. “I can see you’re disappointed.” Leave it at that.
The teaching moment is not when the bad news rolls in. The teaching moment is when their emotions (and yours) have settled, their defense are down, and there is space to have a conversation about study habits, planning, and what they might do differently next time.
“If there’s an area to improve, it’s a separate conversation for another day,” says Miller from Eton. “The action plan comes later.”
Remember, they are people very much in formation. How we react shapes how they are formed. Our job is to communicate potential. “Parents cannot allow a single exam or a set of exams to define the child,” says Miller.
Dear parents/guardians:
Lastly, our children are more than their exam results. Today, therefore, is the best time to show that. Happy Exam Results Day!!!
Adapted from: JA
The goal is not to fix the situation or fix your child. It’s to be there for a hard moment and reassure them that they’ll get through it. Exams are not the measure of a human—they are the measure of an important but narrow set of academic standards. This result will not ruin their future. It might alter it, but that’s life. The key is that you have their back, and you will help them get through it.
Cullinan recounted the story of a stressed student who had just gotten a 64% on an exam. The student was visibly upset and said he needed to call his mom, who would be really disappointed in him. Cullinan tried a different narrative: he focused on the areas for improvement rather than the result in hand. He told the student: “Good! So, there's only 36% left to win!” His choice of words communicated that all was not lost; there was plenty of room for growth. “It’s all a dress rehearsal,” he says.
✔️The teaching moment
Your kid wanted to study, but just kept finding so many other fun things to do. Video games. Friends. Sports. Social media. They get poor marks and you are chomping at the bit to Say ‘I told you so’ They will probably feel the sting of disappointment. Let them. Hug them or reassure them. “I can see you’re disappointed.” Leave it at that.
The teaching moment is not when the bad news rolls in. The teaching moment is when their emotions (and yours) have settled, their defense are down, and there is space to have a conversation about study habits, planning, and what they might do differently next time.
“If there’s an area to improve, it’s a separate conversation for another day,” says Miller from Eton. “The action plan comes later.”
Remember, they are people very much in formation. How we react shapes how they are formed. Our job is to communicate potential. “Parents cannot allow a single exam or a set of exams to define the child,” says Miller.
Dear parents/guardians:
Lastly, our children are more than their exam results. Today, therefore, is the best time to show that. Happy Exam Results Day!!!
Adapted from: JA