"I'm wise, and everyone else is a fool." That's arrogant, and probably false, but it's logically coherent. Your wisdom doesn't depend on anyone else's. A genius among idiots is still a genius.
Now try it with love: "I'm loving, but everyone else is unloving." Kierkegaard says: stop, this contradicts itself. Why? Because the attitude "everyone else is unloving" is itself an unloving attitude. It's suspicious, contemptuous, closed. The moment you hold it, you've stopped doing the thing love is.
Now try it with love: "I'm loving, but everyone else is unloving." Kierkegaard says: stop, this contradicts itself. Why? Because the attitude "everyone else is unloving" is itself an unloving attitude. It's suspicious, contemptuous, closed. The moment you hold it, you've stopped doing the thing love is.